ANGER MONKEY CO-PARENTING SESSIONS
Whether you're navigating post-divorce tensions, blended family dynamics, or the daily grind of shared custody, old anger can Trigger even the best intentions into a hate-filled throw down. Designed by parents who've walked the same path, Anger Monkey Solutions offers practical tools to objectify the hurdles and defuse them.
Common Anger Issues We See:
"Hijacked Brain" eruptions: Snapping over a missed pickup or a forgotten school form, dramatizing small issues into major battles.
Bottled-up resentment: Holding grudges from the past that poison every interaction. "Old Anger" is the worst
Passive-aggressive jabs: Subtle digs in texts or through the kids that erode trust over time. Passive Aggressive anger styles are rarely heard
These are conflicting anger styles in real time at work, they're patterns that sabotage your co-parenting goals. Family dynamic's mold a child's anger style, modeling toxic behavior for your children is not what you want leading to their own emotional struggles, anxiety, or loyalty conflicts, now and in their future.
CO-PARENTING YOUR ANGER
Here's what parents tell us that causes the most anger:
Oppositional Communication Style: (The Lawyer)
Hostile texts, ignored calls, or "win-at-all-costs" arguments that go nowhere, waiting purposely too long to respond to texts. Basic overall assholeishness
Using kids as messengers or pawns: (The Mole)
Venting frustrations through them or pitting them against the other parent. puts picture of her boyfriend in school book
Emotional triggers from the past: (The "Remember Elephant") Lingering hurt, betrayal, or control issues from the relationship that flare up at every handover.
Logistical minefields: (The Goal Post Mover)
Scheduling clashes, differing household rules, or financial stress that amplify every disagreement.
Competing Anger Styles:
AGGRESSIVE STYLE
Explosive Ball of Hate: (Fred Flintstone)
breaks stuff, throws stuff, was a jock, likes alcohol and football, face explodes while yelling
Spooled Up: (The Says Sorry Never)
raise voice, or dominate conversations, Oppositional conversation style "is wheat a vegetable?" turns into a fight over how "stupid you are"
Spun Out: (The Meth Head)
Overwhelms the other parent, shutting down dialogue and escalating fights, meth head, total asshole, claims you never let them speak, never stops talking
PASSIVE STYLE
Plotting/Passive: (The Evil Intellectual)
Holds it in, then resents or withdraws, plans revenge, builds silent grudges that erupt later, leaving the other parent confused and defensive.
Passive-Aggressive Humor: (The Sniper)
cruel punchlines, every joke means "you're stupid"
Sarcastic comments, "forgetting" plans, or indirect jabs.
Erodes trust slowly: ( The Double Agent)
turning routine co-parenting into a minefield of suspicion. goes through your drawers, car, phone, purse and wallet
Avoidant: (The Dodger)
Shuts down or changes the subject to escape conflict, misunderstands turns it into a fight, dismisses the more expressive parent leading to one-sided blowups, missing while talking to you
CORE ISSUES
Anger in co-parenting often stems from these core issues:
Unresolved emotional wounds: (The Accuser)
Hurt from the split that hasn't healed, making every interaction feel like a personal insult, reminds you of your past nonstop, suspects you having sex not with him
Fear and control: ( The Fearful Controller)
Worries about your child's well-being or losing influence, leading to overreactions that "you don't care"
Trust erosion: (The Liar)
Broken promises or past betrayals that make collaboration feel risky.
Lifestyle mismatches: Different homes, rules, or priorities that highlight inequalities.