ANGER MONKEY CO-PARENTING SESSIONS
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Whether you're navigating post-divorce tensions, blended family dynamics, or the daily grind of shared custody, old anger can Trigger even the best intentions into a hate-filled throw down. Designed by parents who've walked the same path, Anger Monkey Solutions offers practical tools to objectify the hurdles and defuse them.
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Common Anger Issues We See:
"Hijacked Brain" eruptions: Snapping over a missed pickup or a forgotten school form, dramatizing small issues into major battles.
Bottled-up resentment: Holding grudges from the past that poison every interaction. "Old Anger" is the worst
Passive-aggressive jabs: Subtle digs in texts or through the kids that erode trust over time. Passive Aggressive anger styles are rarely heard
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These are conflicting anger styles in real time at work, they're patterns that sabotage your co-parenting goals. Family dynamic's mold a child's anger style, modeling toxic behavior for your children is not what you want leading to their own emotional struggles, anxiety, or loyalty conflicts, now and in their future.
CO-PARENTING YOUR ANGER
Here's what parents tell us that causes the most anger:
Oppositional Communication Style: (The Lawyer)
Hostile texts, ignored calls, or "win-at-all-costs" arguments that go nowhere, waiting purposely too long to respond to texts. Basic overall assholeishness
Using kids as messengers or pawns: (The Mole)
Venting frustrations through them or pitting them against the other parent. puts picture of her boyfriend in school book
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Emotional triggers from the past: (The "Remember Elephant") Lingering hurt, betrayal, or control issues from the relationship that flare up at every handover.
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Logistical minefields: (The Goal Post Mover)
Scheduling clashes, differing household rules, or financial stress that amplify every disagreement.
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Competing Anger Styles:
AGGRESSIVE STYLE
Explosive Ball of Hate: (Fred Flintstone)
breaks stuff, throws stuff, was a jock, likes alcohol and football, face explodes while yelling
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Spooled Up: (The Says Sorry Never)
raise voice, or dominate conversations, Oppositional conversation style "is wheat a vegetable?" turns into a fight over how "stupid you are"
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Spun Out: (The Meth Head)
Overwhelms the other parent, shutting down dialogue and escalating fights, meth head, total asshole, claims you never let them speak, never stops talking
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PASSIVE STYLE
Plotting/Passive: (The Evil Intellectual)
Holds it in, then resents or withdraws, plans revenge, builds silent grudges that erupt later, leaving the other parent confused and defensive.
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Passive-Aggressive Humor: (The Sniper)
cruel punchlines, every joke means "you're stupid"
Sarcastic comments, "forgetting" plans, or indirect jabs.
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Erodes trust slowly: ( The Double Agent)
turning routine co-parenting into a minefield of suspicion. goes through your drawers, car, phone, purse and wallet
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Avoidant: (The Dodger)
Shuts down or changes the subject to escape conflict, misunderstands turns it into a fight, dismisses the more expressive parent leading to one-sided blowups, missing while talking to you
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​CORE ISSUES
Anger in co-parenting often stems from these core issues:
Unresolved emotional wounds: (The Accuser)
Hurt from the split that hasn't healed, making every interaction feel like a personal insult, reminds you of your past nonstop, suspects you having sex not with him
Fear and control: ( The Fearful Controller)
Worries about your child's well-being or losing influence, leading to overreactions that "you don't care"
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Trust erosion: (The Liar)
Broken promises or past betrayals that make collaboration feel risky.
Lifestyle mismatches: Different homes, rules, or priorities that highlight inequalities.